fix: use stop-first update order for all database services (#4560)

Docker Swarm's default start-first update order causes new database
containers to fail with 'DBPathInUse' because two containers compete
for the same data volume simultaneously. Docker then rolls back the
update, silently reverting any env var or config changes.

Using stop-first ensures the old container is stopped before the new
one starts, preventing volume lock conflicts across all database types.

Fixes #4550

packages/server/src/utils/databases/libsql.ts

@@ -140,7 +140,11 @@ export const buildLibsql = async (libsql: LibsqlNested) => {
 					: []),
 			],
 		},
-		UpdateConfig,
+		UpdateConfig: libsql.updateConfigSwarm ?? {
+			Parallelism: 1,
+			Order: "stop-first" as const,
+			FailureAction: "rollback" as const,
+		},
 	};
 	try {
 		const service = docker.getService(appName);

packages/server/src/utils/databases/mariadb.ts

@@ -111,7 +111,11 @@ export const buildMariadb = async (mariadb: MariadbNested) => {
 							]
 						: [],
 				},
-		UpdateConfig,
+		UpdateConfig: mariadb.updateConfigSwarm ?? {
+			Parallelism: 1,
+			Order: "stop-first" as const,
+			FailureAction: "rollback" as const,
+		},
 	};
 	try {
 		const service = docker.getService(appName);

packages/server/src/utils/databases/mongo.ts

@@ -167,7 +167,11 @@ ${command ?? "wait $MONGOD_PID"}`;
 							]
 						: [],
 				},
-		UpdateConfig,
+		UpdateConfig: mongo.updateConfigSwarm ?? {
+			Parallelism: 1,
+			Order: "stop-first" as const,
+			FailureAction: "rollback" as const,
+		},
 	};
 
 	try {

packages/server/src/utils/databases/mysql.ts

@@ -117,7 +117,11 @@ export const buildMysql = async (mysql: MysqlNested) => {
 							]
 						: [],
 				},
-		UpdateConfig,
+		UpdateConfig: mysql.updateConfigSwarm ?? {
+			Parallelism: 1,
+			Order: "stop-first" as const,
+			FailureAction: "rollback" as const,
+		},
 	};
 	try {
 		const service = docker.getService(appName);

packages/server/src/utils/databases/postgres.ts

@@ -109,7 +109,11 @@ export const buildPostgres = async (postgres: PostgresNested) => {
 							]
 						: [],
 				},
-		UpdateConfig,
+		UpdateConfig: postgres.updateConfigSwarm ?? {
+			Parallelism: 1,
+			Order: "stop-first" as const,
+			FailureAction: "rollback" as const,
+		},
 	};
 	try {
 		const service = docker.getService(appName);

packages/server/src/utils/databases/redis.ts

@@ -115,7 +115,11 @@ export const buildRedis = async (redis: RedisNested) => {
 							]
 						: [],
 				},
-		UpdateConfig,
+		UpdateConfig: redis.updateConfigSwarm ?? {
+			Parallelism: 1,
+			Order: "stop-first" as const,
+			FailureAction: "rollback" as const,
+		},
 	};
 
 	try {